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Townsend:
Don't really know where to start, so I'll give a little background. Divorced over three years ago. Have dated off and on and have had sex since that time. The ED thing has been happening for about 2 years. Sometimes it works, sometimes it does not. About 50/50, I just never know which 50% I'm gonna get. When it does, the erection does not last very long, but is usually hard enough to penetrate, though not always rock hard as it should be. Many times during intimacy I will be up and down several times. If I have to stop and take off clothing, or do something else, I will lose it very fast. My "window of opportunity" is very short, to say the least. Nocturnal erections do happen, but in spurts (no pun intended). Physical characteristics: Age: 37 Height: 5'-8" Weight: 220 lbs Health: generally good Fitness: average Cardio/blood pressure: high end of normal, not taking or prescribed meds Psychological: My self-confidence in sex and relationships has never been real high, but I had never actually failed to acheive an erection until a couple years ago. I have zero feelings for my ex-wife, so I know for a fact that I can rule that out. I have a wonderful girl now whom I think the world of. I find myself worrying more about disappointing her than myself. We have talked a little about it. I had to give her warning of what might "not" happen. She is understanding, but not willing to be celabate, either. During sex, and when it's not working, I feel like I'm screaming inside my head, "WORK!!!! GET UP!!!! WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU????", which I'm sure doesn't help at all. It is easier to get an erection by myself, for whatever that's worth. That adds to my belief that I may be putting too much pressure on myself. Low Testosterone: I think this may be part of the problem. I was tested at 328ng, which is in the socalled "normal" range, but at the low end. I've read some say that it is still not enough and should be 500, or higher. I've also read that one symptom can be always being cold. This never used to happen to me, but does now. I also find myself sleepy after meals, which I've read can be a symptom. This last one has decreased since I have my blood sugar under control. This may sound extremely starnge, but I've also noticed myself being far more emotional than I ever used to be. I have no idea if that last one means anything. Diabetes: Diagnosed T2 diabetic about 15 months ago, but obviously had it for while before that. My bloodsugars have been under very good control from diet and exercise from near the beginning. I have not had to take medication to control the diabetes since last summer. My original thoughts were this may be the cause. Now, after the viagra not working, I'm not so sure. Viagra: I was prescribed 50mg of Viagra a couple months ago. It didn't seem to make a difference. I was able to obtain a good enough erection after awhile, but I honestly believe that the viagra had nothing to do with it. A couple weeks later, I tried 100mg, and absolutely nothing happened. In between I took nothing and three times I got an erection and once I did not. Libido: Hate to sound stupid, but could someone please define 'libido' for me. In my head, I very much have the desire. There are just sometimes no "feelings" or "movement", so to speak, where there should be. Is it a mental thing, or a physical thing? If it's mental, I think I'm ok. If it's physical, I don't think so. Final thoughts: Based on my readings and research, I'm leaning toward low testoerone with maybe a bit of psychological problem thrown in just to make it interesting. I would like to try Androgel, or something similar and see if that helps. Right now, I'm ready to try almost anything. I have a dr appt tomorrow for this specific problem and plan to tell the dr what I think and see what he says. Any thoughts or suggestions on how I may want to approach him?
Phil:
Most of us all are a work in progress and all we can give is our experiences. I just came back from my doctor's appointment today and had a battery of blood tests taken. So please take this into consideration when you read my response. First, I am 47, 5'10" 175 and I can tell the difference in my sexual performance with as little as a 10 pound swing in my weight. At 165-170 I feel like a stud. When I'm 180, I feel like a pig. I can imagine 220, because 2 decades ago, I was 234. My advice, loose some weight, you will feel better all around, improve your confidence as well as help your diabetes. I have also read that excessive weight causes high levels of estrogen, which will crush you libido. Second, a T-level of 328 at age 37 is very low. I am 528 and find my mind wandering during sex. I have to make myself concentrate or I will loose my erection. Be aware of "normal ranges." They are no indication of what the "optimal" range should be for a sexually active man. Third, Viagra didn't work for me initially, but then I realized it couldn't make me interested in sex. If I was relaxed and turned on, Viagra works great. There are side effects (stuffy nose, headaches). I remember loosing erections while on viagra and becoming very upset, almost to tears. These feelings are not very helpful in achieving intimacy! Viagra will not make you have an erection, but it will help you maintain one if you want to have sex. Also look at past posts regarding L-Arginine (Read "The Arginine Solution"). Regular doses of this amino acid could help you avoid the need for viagra. Fourth, simply put libido is the desire to have sex. But recognizing what is is , at least for me, has been a very enlightening experience. I have been married 28 years to a beautiful woman and have always felt amazed that such a creature would have sex with me. I still think that way about her, but my sore knee, the TV, the phone ringing, etc. all distract me. My wife would never answer the phone duriing sex because she knew I would embarrass her by attempting to "pound away" while she answered the call. But now...I'm watching TV or eating a sandwich by the time her call ends. Same woman, so what's the deal? I'll be honest with you, I am still working on that one. As far as your doctor is concerned, have him/her check you all out, blood tests, plumbing, etc. And keep at it, read about your problem. You are definitely not alone.
Townsend
Thanks for the reply.
PAL wrote:
> First, I am 47, 5'10" 175 and I can tell the
> difference in my sexual performance with as
> little as a 10 pound swing in my weight. At
> 165-170 I feel like a stud. When I'm 180, I feel
> like a pig. I can imagine 220, because 2 decades
> ago, I was 234. My advice, loose some weight,
> you will feel better all around, improve your
> confidence as well as help your diabetes. I have
> also read that excessive weight causes high
> levels of estrogen, which will crush you libido.
I was at 247 as recently as 3 months ago. I am at 220 now. Long story behind that.
> Second, a T-level of 328 at age 37 is very low.
> I am 528 and find my mind wandering during sex.
> I have to make myself concentrate or I will loose
> my erection. Be aware of "normal ranges." They
> are no indication of what the "optimal" range
> should be for a sexually active man.
I have another updating post in here, but everybody I've talked to in this group and another have said the same thing. 328 is too low, even though it is "normal". I did have another blood test done and am waiting on the results.
> Fourth, simply put libido is the desire to have
> sex. But recognizing what is is , at least for
> me, has been a very enlightening experience. I
> have been married 28 years to a beautiful woman
> and have always felt amazed that such a creature
> would have sex with me.
I know what you mean. I now have the most wonderful and beautiful girlfriend and I want nothing more than to please her and satisfy her. (There is something in it for me too, trust me) I most certainly have the desire in my conscience brain, but the signals get lost somewhere on it's way to the equipment.
> As far as your doctor is concerned, have him/her
> check you all out, blood tests, plumbing, etc.
> And keep at it, read about your problem. You are
> definitely not alone.
I am going in to see if depressiom may play a part. I've been scanning the internet and have learned alot. Thanks for your help.
> Physical characteristics:
> Age: 37
> Height: 5'-8"
> Weight: 220 lbs
> Health: generally good
> Fitness: average
> Cardio/blood pressure: high end of normal, not taking or prescribed
> meds
Are you muscular? Do you have much body or facial hair? Being 5' 8" tall, and weighing 220 pounds is on the overweight side. Your weight could easily cause your blood pressure to be on the high side.
> Psychological:
> My self-confidence in sex and relationships has never been real
high,
> but I had never actually failed to acheive an erection until a
couple
> years ago. I have zero feelings for my ex-wife, so I know for a
fact
> that I can rule that out. I have a wonderful girl now whom I think
> the world of. I find myself worrying more about disappointing her
> than myself. We have talked a little about it. I had to give her
> warning of what might "not" happen. She is understanding, but not
> willing to be celabate, either. During sex, and when it's not
> working, I feel like I'm screaming inside my head, "WORK!!!! GET
> UP!!!! WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU????", which I'm sure doesn't help at
> all. It is easier to get an erection by myself, for whatever
that's
> worth. That adds to my belief that I may be putting too much
> pressure on myself.
>
> Low Testosterone:
> I think this may be part of the problem. I was tested at 328ng,
> which is in the socalled "normal" range, but at the low end. I've
> read some say that it is still not enough and should be 500, or
> higher. I've also read that one symptom can be always being cold.
> This never used to happen to me, but does now. I also find myself
> sleepy after meals, which I've read can be a symptom. This last
one
> has decreased since I have my blood sugar under control. This may
> sound extremely starnge, but I've also noticed myself being far
more
> emotional than I ever used to be. I have no idea if that last one
> means anything.
Having a lower testosterone level is not the only reason to be sleepy after meals. Blood sugar is more likely the problem for this than low testosterone. Low testosterone is an oversold diagnosis these days. Our diets are more of the culprit than low testosterone.
> Diabetes:
> Diagnosed T2 diabetic about 15 months ago, but obviously had it for
> while before that. My bloodsugars have been under very good
control
> from diet and exercise from near the beginning. I have not had to
> take medication to control the diabetes since last summer. My
> original thoughts were this may be the cause. Now, after the
viagra
> not working, I'm not so sure.
Having diabetes is an indication that your problem may be more from diet than low testosterone. Making sure that the pituitary gland is properly nurished will help your overall health in that the pituitary gland controls among other things the thyroid, pancreas and gonads.
If you will note, all of these glands play an important role in how one feels and all have to do with the amount of energy one has at any given time.
>snip<
> Final thoughts:
> Based on my readings and research, I'm leaning toward low
testoerone
> with maybe a bit of psychological problem thrown in just to make it
> interesting. I would like to try Androgel, or something similar
and
> see if that helps. Right now, I'm ready to try almost anything. I
> have a dr appt tomorrow for this specific problem and plan to tell
> the dr what I think and see what he says. Any thoughts or
> suggestions on how I may want to approach him?
As stated above, low testosterone is most likely not the reason you are having difficulties. Personally, I have Klinefelter Syndrome with a testosterone level at the low end of the range for males.
However, I do not have a problem with erections or with desire. My wife says that all I ever think about is sex. Having diabetes indicates that you have more of a circulation problem than low
testosterone. Increasing circulation will also allow your testicles to produce more testosterone, so you will benefit in more than one way.
HAVE A GREAT DAY!
Ivan
Townsend
> Are you muscular? Do you have much body or facial hair? Being
> 5' 8" tall, and weighing 220 pounds is on the overweight side.
> Your weight could easily cause your blood pressure to be on the
> high side.
Blood pressure has always been at the high end of normal. It also runs in my family. At 37, I have gone longer than most on my father's side without being on blood pressure medication.
> Having a lower testosterone level is not the only reason to be
> sleepy after meals. Blood sugar is more likely the problem for
> this than low testosterone. Low testosterone is an oversold
> diagnosis these days. Our diets are more of the culprit than low
> testosterone.
My blood sugar is under very good control. Almost never over 140 even after meals. Most times around 120 after meals. I do agree that what we eat many times is the culprit. Fatty foods, for
example, seem to wreak havoc on our bodies.
> Having diabetes is an indication that your problem may be more
> from diet than low testosterone. Making sure that the pituitary
> gland is properly nurished will help your overall health in that
> the pituitary gland controls among other things the thyroid,
> pancreas and gonads. If you will note, all of these glands play
> an important role in how one feels and all have to do with the
> amount of energy one has at any given time.
<snip>
> As stated above, low testosterone is most likely not the reason you
> are having difficulties. Personally, I have Klinefelter Syndrome
> with a testosterone level at the low end of the range for males.
> However, I do not have a problem with erections or with desire. My
> wife says that all I ever think about is sex. Having diabetes
> indicates that you have more of a circulation problem than low
> testosterone. Increasing circulation will also allow your
> testicles to produce more testosterone, so you will benefit in
> more than one way.
Hate to sound ignorant, but how does one increase circulation?
> > As stated above, low testosterone is most likely not the reason
you
> > are having difficulties. Personally, I have Klinefelter Syndrome
> > with a testosterone level at the low end of the range for males.
> > However, I do not have a problem with erections or with desire.
My
> > wife says that all I ever think about is sex. Having diabetes
> > indicates that you have more of a circulation problem than low
> > testosterone. Increasing circulation will also allow your
> > testicles to produce more testosterone, so you will benefit in
> > more than one way.
>
> Hate to sound ignorant, but how does one increase circulation?
There are a number of things that you can do to increase circulation. All of the natural anti-oxidants have a neat side benefit of increasing circulation. The Omega-3 and Omega-6 Fatty acids also help to increase circulation, along with things like Soy Lecithin. All of these help to regulate cholesterol too, including
Garlic which will help with circulation. Herbs like Gingko Biloba increase circulation.
When fellows have good circulation, then they also have better erections. Without good blood flow to the penis, it is difficult to have a good erection.
How much water do you drink on a daily basis? Plenty of water helps with our health also.
>Hate to sound ignorant, but how does one increase circulation?
A 20-30 minute brisk walk everyday will help with this a lot, and also help you achieve some weight loss.
SM